Why do parents need counselling?
In the busyness of life, we can sometimes feel out of step in our relationships with our children. Parenting is a unique relationship as it throws us back into a child-parent relationship, which we’ve all experienced before through our own childhood. However this time, we are the parent and we are in a very different role this time around.
As we are all human, no one is a perfect parent and due to developmental stages and life events, all of us have experiences from our own childhood that have left emotional ‘baggage’ that unless actively worked through stays with us, often locked in our unconscious and our body memory, throughout our lifetime and impacts on each and every relationship we encounter. The parenting relationship, because of its intimate nature, is a fertile ground for these unintegrated emotions to come to the surface and cause much struggle, frustration and unhappiness.
Online counselling will allow you, the parent, to take some time-in for yourself. Self-nurture is the first step towards creating a peaceful family environment – after all, how can anyone else feel nurtured if you don’t. The counselling process will help you connect deeply with what is at the core of your issue, allow it be fully explored and expressed, bringing about a deep feeling of peace and connection with body, mind and spirit. This process allows you to connect with your own innate parenting wisdom, rather than having to access expert advice or strategies which can become confusing and unempowering.
We believe that YOU are the expert in your life!
Why do children need counselling?
Young people come to counselling for many different reasons. They may have been affected by an emotional or traumatic event, like divorce or the death or illness of a loved one. They may have suffered an early trauma, repeated abuse or live in an ongoing stressful environment resulting in emotional turmoil, like shared parenting. Other times a child may exhibit unusual or challenging behaviours which alert us that something is not quite right and they may benefit from connecting with and articulating their inner world. We all have a deep yearning to be heard and listened to. This desire and yearning to express what is inside is even stronger in young people.
The need to clarify problems, resolve conflicts and reduce emotional stress is part of normal living. When our emotions are blocked we can feel ‘stuck’, sad, angry, alone, resentful, depressed, confused and more. Children often struggle with finding a way to unblock their emotions and can lack the language skills to gain appropriate support. They often respond through behaviours that can seem challenging to adults, ie. aggressive outbursts, attention seeking, anxiety, attempting to gain control, unsuccessful peer and sibling relationships, sleeplessness, bedwetting, depression, school refusal and the list goes on. A deeper look below the surface reveals what is blocking, holding and preventing growth. Counselling with Expressive Therapies provide many safe ways for young people to explore and express what is happening in their inner world. By bringing a deeper awareness to these blockages and uncovering the healthy energy and positive emotions that exist at the core of each and every one of us, client’s are empowered to create the changes necessary to live their lives from the core, from a more organic state of self-knowing.
The Therapeutic Process with Children
Your initial visit will generally be an interview session. This allows you and your counsellor to develop an understanding of you and your child’s needs.
Following your initial interview, the process of intervention will be discussed. Together you will make decisions about the type of intervention and support which best suits you and your child.
Intervention may look like one or more of the following:
- Parent support and education through small group workshops
- Individual child counselling
- Individual parent counselling
- A combination of the above
Working with parents and the child’s family is certainly part of the therapeutic process when counselling children. We recommend seeing the parents every four to six weeks, if we are seeing the child individually, to educate about the therapy process. Parent education and support is a vital part of the therapy process.
Our vision is a world in which all children are treated with dignity, respect, understanding and compassion. In counseling sessions, our goal is to help parents identify and meet their children’s needs as well as their own, in as loving and respectful a way as possible. Parenting can be easy and joyful!